Human relationship

Human relationship is subject to 4 kinds of causes ( how we can meet each other and can be a family members out of  7 billions people in this world? )

What are the 4?

(i)                         Demand repayment

(tao zhai 讨债)

(ii)                    Repay  one’s debt

( huan zhai 还债)

(iii)                         Pay a debt of gratitute

(bao en 报恩)

(iv)                   Seek for revenge

(bao yuan 报怨)

An old Dhamma master once said:

(Hong Kong Shou Yan Lao Fa Shi)

Husband and wife are predestined relationship (yuan 缘).

There is good yuan(shan yuan) and there is bad yuan(e yuan).

The good one will be clinging to each other and the bad one will fight with each other till  no end.

  

Children are debts （zhai债）

Some will come to seek for repayment (tao zhai 讨债  because we have owed  him in the past)

Some will come to repay his gratitute to the parents .             (bao en 报恩).

 

  

This little girl is a bao en’s  kid.

She was adopted by the old lady and she took well care of her sick adopted mother .

There was a successful rich businessman who owned  a big company has celebrated his 50 years old birthday.

In the birthday party there were a lot of his friends  came to celebrate

with him.

To his surprise when he watched  from far and noticed that his son’s appearance look exactly like his former German boss.

At once, this businessman has realized what was happening .

He realised that his son was the one who came to demand for repayment ( Tao Zhai).

When this businessman was young, he worked  in a German company. One fine year the German boss went back to his

country and left his business for this young worker to take care of.

Unfortunately, the German boss fell sick and passed away in his home country. He never returned for his business.

The young worker then took over the business and he became the company’s new boss.

He managed the business well and soon he became rich.

He got married and has a son.

The son appeared to be a very naughty kid. How naughty he is?

When he was 10 years of age,  an uncle saw his  money dropped on the floor. The uncle picked up the money and wanted to give the money  back to him.

The uncle asked the boy to call him “shu shu 叔叔” (means uncle )  then he will get back his money  (is a 10 yuan renmingbi note).

The naughty boy asked that uncle to call him “Shu Shu” and  he will give that uncle another 10 yuan renmingbi.

You see, money was nothing to this little boy. He not even appreciate that 10 yuan and wanted to give another 10 yuan to the uncle. It was really a great embarrassment.

During the party night, the businessman has realized  and understood what he must do next.

 Immediately that night itself, in front of all his relatives and friends he made  an announcement

that he will hand over his company to his son (previous life was the German boss).

 

Since then the son has became a good man.

He ran the business well and treated the father well too.

Luckily the businessman understand Dhamma and believe in cause and effect.

 (yin guo 因果).

He has made a very wise decision to hand over the company to his son. Other wise this son might ruined his business and will harm him too.

because he ( the son) was coming to get back his properties and took revenge on this businessman.

Nowadays  we can see rebellious children who even dare to kill their parents.

There was an incident just happened recently where a son has beated his mother to death.

(the two of them have bad yuan,

 That was  past life unfinished  

  business carried till this life.)

This bad yuan has not settled

in  a wise way (Dhamma way ) , it carried till this life (meet).

The poor mother has vowed during her last breath that she will never  forgive her son. She was full of hatred when she passed away.

We have learnt Dhamma now and understand that human’s relationships actually are  very complicated.

Master Chin Kung advices us that no matter what kind of  yuan (relationship)  we meet in this life, we have to accept it (whether bad or good)

If we meet the good yuan, we can

encourage each other to cultivate Dhamma (  do good deeds). We can upgrade the good yuan to fa yuan (Dhamma relationship),

together Nian Fo  to gain enlightenment (wang sheng).

This is from GOOD  upgrade to BETTER  and even to the BEST.

Can wang sheng will be the best.

Today if you meet someone who is very difficult to get along with, no need to grumble , there must be some reasons behind.

Handle the situation wisely.

Don’t add more “spices or fire” on top of these.

During Buddha time, there was a lady who was beaten badly by her husband almost everyday.  At first she fought back, later she came to seek help from Buddha.

Buddha told her about the cause of this happening.

In the previous life, her husband was her donkey (worked in her farm), everyday she would beat the donkey badly.

In this life the donkey has reincarnated as a human, both of them met and became husband and wife.

The donkey came to seek revenge.

That is why her husband for no reason would beat her badly.

Buddha taught her to accept and settle this bad yuan.

Buddha told her to go home and prepared  a belt to put on the table.

When the husband came home, she offered  herself to her husband to beat her with the belt.

After three times of beating, her husband stopped.

Her husband felt strange why she was not struck (hit)  him back this time.

Then only she told her husband about their past life story.

Since that day onwards, this couple lived harmoniously and they go to thank Buddha for the guidance and started to cultivate Dhamma path then.

(this is an example of upgrading a bad yuan to good yuan and even fa yuan.)

Bad yuan (due to  unfinish negative business), will  always quarrel or fight, torture each other.

In this case, the best way is to  accept and settle it.

Master Chin Kung Said, if he scold you,  you just recite Amituofo will do, don’t scold back, then one debt has settled (settling debts).

Everytime he scold you or find trouble with you, never mind, you just recite Amituofo,   at the end

he will not scold or torture you anymore (all debts has repaid).

In  this way the bad yuan will upgrade to good yuan.

Good yuan (has cultivated good

causes), this pair will be a loving couple, they care for each other.

This is not good enough because this loving attachment will be the cause of clinging (can not let go) during one must leave this world one day later.

The best is Fa yuan (Dhamma relationship). Both can encourage each other to cultivate Dhamma and Nian Fo together. Both will

make a promise to work hard

(Nian Fo) and will be meeting each other in Xi Fang Ji Le Shi Jie

one day later.

No matter how loving a couple is, there will be a separation day.

If both will be to  born to Xi Fang Ji Le Shi Jie than only can be together forever.

“We have no choice when we

came but we can decide

and prepare where we

want to go.”